Please Upgrade. Thanks.

Maggie & Hannah

 

We got another of Maggie’s photo books in the mail recently and on Saturday morning, while Audrey took her nap, Barry and I sat with her and thumbed through the pages. Since I’m roughly a year behind it was the book that documented her 2nd birthday to just before her 3rd. Maggie has an impeccable memory and many of the pictures were met with great giggles and elaboration. She especially loved hearing Barry and I tell additional details about things that we noticed and remembered. The books that I make for my girls (currently working on Audrey’s and Maggie’s latest) are huge and some would probably think over the top. And they might just be…

My mom did a remarkable job with documenting my childhood and my brothers and I each have an album from each year, they have now been consolidated and transferred out of those old albums, but I’ve always loved looking at them, even as a child. I even found joy looking at my brothers’ books. To think what an effort my mom must of made to make sure that each of us had copies of group shots and family outings, impresses me and inspires me to keep plowing through my books.

I sometimes daydream about the idea of ‘becoming’ a lifestyle photographer. I’d love to go into people’s homes and become a fly on the wall and take pictures of their lives….the day to day and nitty gritty of it all. Or just take pictures of a family spending time together – not the posed shots where every body is wearing the same color and holding their guts in, but a family working together in the garden, playing a board game, etc. Capturing the moments that often get lost.

And maybe someday I’ll pursue that avenue of creativity and I really think I’d be doing some families a favor. I don’t mean to sound all high-and-mighty, but I get so sad when I see friends/random people only take horrible, blurry photos of their children with their phones. Of course not everybody wants to learn how to used a big camera, but there are a fair amount of cameras out there that are small and capable of taking pictures of higher quality than any cell phone to date. Since getting my own iPhone this year, I’ve noticed that I tend to use it way more than my ‘big’ camera, and I’m trying to make a point to again pick up my ‘big camera’ to document some things.

After looking though the photo books, I’m critical of my own photography, but Maggie just recognizes a book full of faces and places she loves.

 

Christmas 2011-maggie camera

Faster Isn’t Always Better

I’ve found that I use the phrase “and we’ll go really fast” or “we’ll do it quickly” often and Maggie has started to tell me to ‘take my time’ and not rush. Rushing, no matter if intentional or not, is part of having a family, especially when the kids are young. Today I took Sydney and Audrey for a walk after I dropped Maggie off at school. It was rainy and enjoyable, once the Pug decided that she was fine tromping through the puddles. Audrey and I made it back home for a bit of time, where I finally got the clue that she wanted to play and I needed to stop doing things around the house. She loves to roll the ball back and forth and this morning we got two going at once. 

Since Audgie and I spent time playing, it means that I didn’t finish cleaning up the kitchen after breakfast (pancakes!!), start the laundry, make the beds, go to the grocery store,blah, blah, blah. And I feel guilty for not having a tidy house, but I feel more guilty for not spending quality time with my kids. I can’t win and so when I don’t get things done, I start to play the ‘we’ll do it all really quick’ game in my head. And it takes my precious, worldly, smart almost-four-year-old to remind me to slow down. 

After I picked Maggie up, I started to tell her that we needed to stop by a couple stores (see above about playing with Audrey) and that’d we be ‘real quick’ and then head home for lunch. I didn’t even realize I was feeling pressure and stress about not being caught up. So, from the back seat, Maggie tells me “Mama, we don’t need to be quick. We can take our time….”

And she is right. 

Lesson learned. 

For that moment. 

We went to the store and took our time. Mags rode standing up and holding on and we played our standard “Anchor Up” game. We started at the lobsters, oohhed and ahheeed at the crackers and loaded into the car when we were all done. By the time we pulled into our driveway, I could hear the dialogue in my head telling myself that I’d be “real quick” about pulling up the recycle bin, unloading the groceries, and whatever else before I started to make lunch. 

It wasn’t until I had lunch in front of both the girls and Maggie and I were talking about the rain that I really felt myself slow down, calm down and enjoy the time. I’m up for the challenge of truly taking my time, but boy…..it’s going to be a hard lesson to learn. 

(As always, a sprinkling of photos from recent weeks.)

3g great grandpa maggie audrey-2 3g great grandpa maggie audrey-3 3g great grandpa maggie audrey3g great grandpa maggie audrey-4 3g great grandpa maggie audrey-5audrey bedroom light audrey reading-2 audrey reading-3 audrey reading-4 audrey reading maggie jumping sue birthday audrey-2maggie karasue birthday audrey

sue birthday audrey-3audrey bedroom light-2